We all can experience low confidence at times. But for some people, a lack of confidence can hold them back from achieving their goals in life. If low confidence is an issue for you, it’s important to know why so that you can address the root cause. In the meantime, there are also some handy tips you can use to boost your confidence on the spot when you need a little help.
Why do some people feel less confident than others?
Consistently low confidence is usually from a sense of suppression. Often, you will have tried to speak up when you were younger but were made to feel like you didn’t have a voice. This could be from a domineering parent, a teacher or another authority figure.
Young people who have experienced this will often become focused on their image. They might try to dissuade people from looking at them because they feel they have nothing to offer. Some will feel that they need to wear a lot of make-up because it becomes a mask over their lack of confidence.
In adults, a lack of confidence can arise when you start to study again or learn something new. This is often common in adults who start a second career and need to study a new qualification. Even I have experienced low confidence when learning something new!
Speaking in public is a situation that can often make you feel less confident. In fact, many people are more afraid of public speaking than of dying! It’s easy to get caught up in thinking about what others think about us when we’re talking to a group in public. You might fear their judgement, or worry about what happens if you slip up and make a mistake.
There is a strong link between being authentic and feeling confident. If your confidence is low, it may be because you’ve been pretending to be something you’re not. But at the end of the day, all a person wants is to be loved, appreciated and accepted for who they are.
Steps to boost your confidence naturally
Now that you understand why you might be lacking in confidence, let’s look at some handy tips to boost that confidence!
Be aware of your body
Where in your body is that feeling of low confidence or fear? Are there butterflies in your stomach, or is it somewhere else? Identify where in your body you feel the sensations. This allows you to be in your body rather than in your head, and act from a space of awareness.
Follow the 5 Second Rule
Sometimes, you need to trick your brain. Count back from 5 to 1 and then go ahead and do whatever it is that is scaring you. (The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins is a fabulous resource and has inspired me to take action in many ways since discovering her work.) The key is to not think about it because the brain’s ability to overanalyse and exaggerate a fear is often what holds you back!
Take baby steps
If jumping in is not for you, taking baby steps might be a good option. If speaking in public is your fear, start off by talking to a group of 5 people in an intimate workshop. Once you survive 5 people, you can work up to 10, 20, 50 and more people.
Remember your last courageous act
We have all been brave before, even if it was long ago in childhood! Drop into a memory of a time where you felt brave. Notice how you felt, and how good it was to do something brave. Then bring that feeling of confidence into your current situation.
Ask yourself: what’s the worst that could happen?
Often, the fear itself is worse than what it is you fear. If you’re afraid of speaking in public, ask yourself what could go wrong. You could slip up, you could lose the interest of your audience, or you could forget your speech. But will that worst-case scenario matter in a year, or even in 5 years’ time? More often than not, the answer is no.
If you struggle with low confidence, it may be that you have a belief system that is holding you back. I can offer you different ways to address the core issue residing beneath that belief such as FasterEFT and Forensic Healing. I can also introduce you to embodiment practices that will help you discover a renewed sense of confidence.
Why not contact me for a Free 30 minute phone call or Zoom/Skype session to discuss the most suitable healing to restore your sense of confidence.